A young lady has sparked mixed reactions online after claiming that in Igbo culture, a woman’s value as “wife material” is often judged by how much hardship and stress she can endure.

According to her, such expectations disqualify her from fitting into that label.

In a video that quickly went viral on X (formerly Twitter), she recounted two contrasting experiences: one when her partner visited her family, and another when she went to see his.

She explained that when her man came to her home, her family welcomed him warmly. She helped her mother prepare food, while her father offered drinks to make him comfortable. After he ate, she handed his plate to her siblings for washing, and together they ensured the house was in order, treating him with respect and hospitality.

However, during her own visit to her partner’s family, things played out differently. She revealed that his mother immediately directed her to the kitchen to cook for everyone. After serving the meal, she was also asked to clean up by washing all the dishes used by the family.

The lady admitted she was displeased with the situation and openly declared that if being “wife material” is defined by enduring stress and suffering, then she does not fit the role.

Her caption, “I don go my house, when you ready to marry carry your mama come beg me,” further suggested that she may have left her partner’s family home upset.

Watch the video here: